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A Guest Post by Kristen Arant the Drum Lady<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Friends <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I want to talk a little about the joy and release of catharsis, and especially what it means for women, and marginalized gender groups. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I hope you don’t find it cliche for me to say that we are (all of us, really) taught to bottle up raw emotions. I am talking here about the kind of emotions that lead to wailing, screaming, roaring, and beating on things (thank goodness for drums).  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

These raw emotions have incredible power when released. The release of them changes us by letting our brains know that it’s okay to let go. We transform the toxicity of holding in and building resentment, to letting go and aligning with our inner power, our bravery. When we walk in the world this way, it let’s others know they can do it, too. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Honestly, it can sometimes be scary to let these raw emotions come out. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Letting them out takes courage. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

And a safe space, free from judgment. Free from shame. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

For some of us there is an extra something we need…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

which is to be in a space with just those who have shared an essential part of our experience. As women and AFABs, we share a commonality, an experience. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to reach down deep, lift our voices in unison, wail as loud as we can, and beat on drums with all our might, we need a container. Women have needed these containers since the beginning of time. And now, they are few and far between. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lyrics:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cry if you need to cry
Go on and\u00a0cry\u00a0
Cry if you need to cry
Go on and\u00a0cry\u00a0(let\u00a0your\u00a0tears fly)\u00a0
Cuz\u00a0if\u00a0you\u2019re feelin blue, sometimes\u00a0it\u2019s the way through\u00a0
So\u00a0cry if you need to cry
Go on and\u00a0cry\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Shout\u00a0if\u00a0you\u00a0need\u00a0to shout\u00a0
Go on and shout (hey-yay!!)
Shout\u00a0if\u00a0you\u00a0need to shout
Go on and shout, go on and shout
It\u00a0may be loud for some, but\u00a0you\u2019ll feel better\u00a0when you\u2019re done\u00a0
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So\u00a0
Shout\u00a0if\u00a0you\u00a0need\u00a0to shout\u00a0
Go on and shout\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sing\u00a0if\u00a0you\u00a0need\u00a0to sing\u00a0
Go on and sing\u00a0
Sing\u00a0if\u00a0you\u00a0need to sing
Go on and sing (let\u00a0your\u00a0voice ring)
Cuz\u00a0if\u00a0you\u00a0sing with all\u00a0your\u00a0might\u00a0
You\u00a0give\u00a0your\u00a0spirit wings to fly\u00a0
So\u00a0
Sing\u00a0if\u00a0you\u00a0need to sing
Go on and sing\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Drum\u00a0if\u00a0you\u00a0need\u00a0to drum\u00a0
Go on and drum\u00a0
Drum\u00a0if\u00a0you\u00a0need to drum
Go on and drum. Go on and drum
Cuz\u00a0if\u00a0the world\u2019s gone dark
Your\u00a0rhythm is the fire to spark\u00a0your\u00a0heart\u00a0
So\u00a0
Drum\u00a0if\u00a0you\u00a0need to drum
Go on and drum<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Much Love<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kristen<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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The Drum Lady<\/a><\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n

1:40 \u2013 8:36<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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